socimages:

How to change the world one shrug at a time.
This is, by far, the best response to inquiries about male cross-dressing that I have ever heard. If you don’t already love Eddie Izzard, you might now. His response in a nutshell? “I’m not wearing women’s dresses. I’m wearing my dresses. I bought them. They are mine and I’m a man. They are very clearly a man’s dresses.”
Johnny Depp does a similarly good job of refusing to take the bait in this clip from the Late Show with David Letterman. Letterman queries his rationale for wearing a women’s engagement ring. Depp just plays dumb and ultimately says that it didn’t fit his fiancée, but it did fit him. So… shrug.
The phenomenon of being questioned about one’s performance of gender is called “gender policing.” Generally there are three ways to respond to gender policing: (1) apologize and follow the gender rules, (2) make an excuse for why you’re breaking the rules (which allows you to break them, but still affirms the rules), or (3) do something that suggests that the rules are stupid or wrong.  Only the last one is effective in changing or eradicating norms delimiting how men and women are expected to behave.
In these examples, both Izzard and Depp made the choice to disregard the rules, even when being policed. It seems like a simple thing, but it’s very significant. It’s the best strategy for getting rid of these rules altogether.
Thanks to Dmitriy T.C. for the links!
Lisa Wade is a professor of sociology at Occidental College. You can follow her on Twitter andFacebook.

socimages:

How to change the world one shrug at a time.

This is, by far, the best response to inquiries about male cross-dressing that I have ever heard. If you don’t already love Eddie Izzard, you might now. His response in a nutshell? “I’m not wearing women’s dresses. I’m wearing my dresses. I bought them. They are mine and I’m a man. They are very clearly a man’s dresses.”

Johnny Depp does a similarly good job of refusing to take the bait in this clip from the Late Show with David Letterman. Letterman queries his rationale for wearing a women’s engagement ring. Depp just plays dumb and ultimately says that it didn’t fit his fiancée, but it did fit him. So… shrug.

The phenomenon of being questioned about one’s performance of gender is called “gender policing.” Generally there are three ways to respond to gender policing: (1) apologize and follow the gender rules, (2) make an excuse for why you’re breaking the rules (which allows you to break them, but still affirms the rules), or (3) do something that suggests that the rules are stupid or wrong.  Only the last one is effective in changing or eradicating norms delimiting how men and women are expected to behave.

In these examples, both Izzard and Depp made the choice to disregard the rules, even when being policed. It seems like a simple thing, but it’s very significant. It’s the best strategy for getting rid of these rules altogether.

Thanks to Dmitriy T.C. for the links!

Lisa Wade is a professor of sociology at Occidental College. You can follow her on Twitter andFacebook.



handdrawnfantasma:

fangirl meme: books [2/15]

"Does the walker choose the path, or the path the walker?"



chartermagic:

The Nine Gates of death.

-from Sabriel by Garth Nix

(c) Laura Tolton 



manicurebeast:

Original Illustrations for the Australian Covers of @GarthNix Books #Sabriel #Lirael #Abhorsen #Clariel #TheOldKingdom

manicurebeast:

Original Illustrations for the Australian Covers of @GarthNix Books #Sabriel #Lirael #Abhorsen #Clariel #TheOldKingdom



It is better to do something than nothing, even if the cost is great.



durkin62:

We still haven’t even gotten past the 19th century yet around here. 

durkin62:

We still haven’t even gotten past the 19th century yet around here. 



artbymoga:

onefitmodel:

rootandrock:

timeofthedecade:

bigdaddyg-wil:

this guy pulled out his dick in front of like 5 billion feminist protestors holy shit

Some context for the idiots claiming the women are overreacting:
This occurred at a Slut Walk. For those not familiar with it, the Slut Walk is basically a peaceful protest seeking to eliminate the rape apologism so prevalent in society. The basis is that no woman is “asking for it,” with “it” being rape. It’s not a feminist protest; it’s a human rights protest.
Many of the protesters, as you can probably imagine, have dealt with sexual harassment or rape in their own lives. Many of them have structured their daily activities to avoid being raped. The gathering is supposed to be a place for them to feel empowered and able to recover in the company of those who understand what they’ve been through or who will not blame them.
Nobody at a Slut Walk will tell a survivor that it’s her fault. They will not ask what she was wearing to provoke her attacker. Nobody will say she had too much to drink. Nobody will tell the men in the group that they are inherently rapists themselves, and nobody will tell a male survivor that his experience “wasn’t really rape.”
Then, this fellow comes along. He sees this gathering of survivors and their supporters, and to him, it’s a joke. He sees feminazis. He sees girls who are taking “a bit of fun” too seriously. And what does he do? He exposes himself to this group of survivors and supporters - some of whom are, in fact, underage.
He sexually harasses literally hundreds of women in one act. Aside from public indecency, there was cruel intent in his actions. He wanted to make them uncomfortable. He wanted to “put them in their place.” Other photos from this event show him flipping the protesters off and laughing at their anger.
And there are still people defending his actions. There are those who still feel like these women were asking for itand that they deserved to be harassed for trying to claim they weren’t. There are those who feel that women should be taught a lesson this way, and they applaud this man’s actions.
So no, he didn’t pull out his dick in front of feminist protesters. He harassed dozens - if not hundreds - of rape survivors. The reaction to his actions alone outline the purpose of the Slut Walk.
For those of you still doubting whether what he did was wrong (and I do wonder if there’s something wrong with you, if you have doubts), let me give you an analogous situation. Imagine a gathering of black civil rights activists. Imagine Martin Luther King Jr., Malcolm X, Rosa Parks, and all their colleagues gathered together to demonstrate that being black did not make them lesser people. That being black and living in the South did not mean they were “asking” to be the target of hate crimes.
And at this gathering, a white man decides he should teach them a lesson by pointedly hanging a noose from the nearest tree and laughing at their anger. And other white men, laughing along with him, commend him for taking these activists down a peg.
That’s what happened here. It’s not an “OMG, I can’t believe he did that!” moment. It’s an “OMG, there are people who think this is okay” moment. And the fact is, it’s not. It never will be. And that’s the take home message of this ridiculous rant I’ve written up.

And this is why we still need feminism.

this made me cry holy shit

That was hands down one of the most well-written and beautiful responses I have had the pleasure to read. Thank you

artbymoga:

onefitmodel:

rootandrock:

timeofthedecade:

bigdaddyg-wil:

this guy pulled out his dick in front of like 5 billion feminist protestors holy shit

Some context for the idiots claiming the women are overreacting:

This occurred at a Slut Walk. For those not familiar with it, the Slut Walk is basically a peaceful protest seeking to eliminate the rape apologism so prevalent in society. The basis is that no woman is “asking for it,” with “it” being rape. It’s not a feminist protest; it’s a human rights protest.

Many of the protesters, as you can probably imagine, have dealt with sexual harassment or rape in their own lives. Many of them have structured their daily activities to avoid being raped. The gathering is supposed to be a place for them to feel empowered and able to recover in the company of those who understand what they’ve been through or who will not blame them.

Nobody at a Slut Walk will tell a survivor that it’s her fault. They will not ask what she was wearing to provoke her attacker. Nobody will say she had too much to drink. Nobody will tell the men in the group that they are inherently rapists themselves, and nobody will tell a male survivor that his experience “wasn’t really rape.”

Then, this fellow comes along. He sees this gathering of survivors and their supporters, and to him, it’s a joke. He sees feminazis. He sees girls who are taking “a bit of fun” too seriously. And what does he do? He exposes himself to this group of survivors and supporters - some of whom are, in fact, underage.

He sexually harasses literally hundreds of women in one act. Aside from public indecency, there was cruel intent in his actions. He wanted to make them uncomfortable. He wanted to “put them in their place.” Other photos from this event show him flipping the protesters off and laughing at their anger.

And there are still people defending his actions. There are those who still feel like these women were asking for itand that they deserved to be harassed for trying to claim they weren’t. There are those who feel that women should be taught a lesson this way, and they applaud this man’s actions.

So no, he didn’t pull out his dick in front of feminist protesters. He harassed dozens - if not hundreds - of rape survivors. The reaction to his actions alone outline the purpose of the Slut Walk.

For those of you still doubting whether what he did was wrong (and I do wonder if there’s something wrong with you, if you have doubts), let me give you an analogous situation. Imagine a gathering of black civil rights activists. Imagine Martin Luther King Jr., Malcolm X, Rosa Parks, and all their colleagues gathered together to demonstrate that being black did not make them lesser people. That being black and living in the South did not mean they were “asking” to be the target of hate crimes.

And at this gathering, a white man decides he should teach them a lesson by pointedly hanging a noose from the nearest tree and laughing at their anger. And other white men, laughing along with him, commend him for taking these activists down a peg.

That’s what happened here. It’s not an “OMG, I can’t believe he did that!” moment. It’s an “OMG, there are people who think this is okay” moment. And the fact is, it’s not. It never will be. And that’s the take home message of this ridiculous rant I’ve written up.

And this is why we still need feminism.

this made me cry holy shit

That was hands down one of the most well-written and beautiful responses I have had the pleasure to read. Thank you



gnumblr:

reblog if you’re the gay cousin



food52:

A perfectly acceptable Monday morning breakfast.

food52:

A perfectly acceptable Monday morning breakfast.



lilliputiansworld:

(Photo: Keera)

..every time I’m looking at Nerea’s dioramas.. ..I’m speechless… I guess this time is not different from any other times! ;)





xenadd:

LIRAEL art for Australian new edition by @SebCiaffaglione @AllenAndUnwin more to come ABHORSEN then CLARIEL pic.twitter.com/Tvn43htISS

xenadd:

LIRAEL art for Australian new edition by more to come ABHORSEN then CLARIEL



magicalrocketships:

WHAT DO YOU MEAN I HAVE ALREADY LEFT KUDOS HERE? WHY ISN’T THERE A BUTTON WHICH SAYS, “LEAVE MORE KUDOS HERE” AND THEN YOUR NAME IN THE KUDOS LIST SLOWLY STARTS TURNING ALL THE COLOURS OF THE RAINBOW WITH THE MORE KUDOS YOU LEAVE, AND THEN LITTLE HEARTS AND FLOWERS AND BALLOONS AND STREAMERS START APPEARING ROUND YOUR NAME, AND THEN, AND ONLY THEN, WILL THIS BE A TRUE REPRESENTATION OF HOW MUCH I LOVE YOUR FIC. 



coffeeisoxygen:

sopranish:

**URGENT: $1100 NEEDED TOMORROW FRIDAY 4/4 FOR HOUSING! DISABLED And HOMELESS!**New THANK YOU REWARDS!**

I have been homeless 8 months. With a severe disability needing complex care. When I do stay at my parents’, I’m assaulted and injured.

Above is the apartment where Tumblr helped me qualify. It’s safe for my disability and finally available! HOWEVER:

I MUST $1100 BY 9PM FRIDAY 4/4 TO SIGN THE LEASE! It’s security deposit and 1st month rent- not covered by my rent subsidy! Otherwise I LOSE THE ONLY APARTMENT TO COME UP IN OVER A YEAR! I also LOSE MY RENT SUBSIDY, MY ONLY MEANS OF HOUSING! They’re HOLDING THE LAST FUNDING SLOT for me, but can’t after this.

I know it seems impossible, so here is a sort of FAQ with more detail! And so, sadly, I must ask:

PLEASE HELP ME over this LAST OBSTACLE to SAFETY!

~So far people have donated $180! Thank you! 1 Day Left for the rest!~

*DONATE: I set up PayPal as email LARTPOURLARTNOW@GMAIL.COM (select “send money to a friend” to safe the fee in the US).

*SHARE: Please Help Spread the Word! Even without donating, this is the biggest help! The more who see it in time, the more who can help!

*THANK YOU INCENTIVES: see the updated full list here! Great new stuff is being added! Let me know if you’d like to offer something!

*MORE INFO AND PROOF: Here is that FAQ again! Here are details about my medical and overall condition. Here’s the post from when I qualified.

I hate asking this, truly. But I know that if anyone can do it, it’s the dedicated and good people here on Tumblr!

PLEASE SPREAD THE WORD, DONATE IF YOU CAN, and HELP ME BE SAFE AT LAST!

Yesterday, when asked, I told Commissioners and Executive Directors of City Agencies all you’ve done. They were amazed! One cried. They all said: You are inspiring!

THANK YOU ALL!!

[Yes, that’s me in that photo! I don’t have my cane because I’m secure against that radiator.]

SIGNAL BOOST

Folks, PLEASE help spread the word at least

Please, she only has until tomorrow <333